Alright everyone! This week's topic was dating! Yes you read that right, it is the best topic for any single person who has no dating life what so ever and will make you want to jump out of you pyjamas, put your makeup back on and go out into he world and find yourself a man, right? For me it didn't! But good for you if you felt that way. In all honesty my dating life is pretty much non-existent. I find myself frustrated constantly of being classified and put into the "friend zone". All. The. Time. So in knowing what the discussion was going to be for the week, I wanted to stay at home and eat ice cream and mourn my non existent dating life. However, through the discussions of this week, I have never felt more frustrated, and more empowered. Yes that's right I am a both sides of the spectrum girl! One point of the discussion that frustrated me, was discussing how my generation views dating, and how dating has become and lost icon in our world. We jump way too many steps and it leads to heart break, unhealthy relationships, and unhealthy expectations for yourself and also the people around you. I also think that we lose self respect for ourselves. We don't see ourselves as who we are, and what our potential is, rather we base it on what other people think about us, specifically of who dates us. Dating has become a commitment before marriage. I hate to break it to you...BUT IT'S NOT! Dating is a great way to go and do an activity and spending quality time with another human being who is interested in getting to know you as a person. Yes, the purpose of dating is to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, however you are not going to marry every person that you date! My professor said something that made me chuckle but in all reality was the truth! He said that with our generation, "we date 'em till we hate 'em." No truer words have ever been spoken! I have seen numerous times when friends or roommates will date guys and continue to go on dates with them until something happens and it gives them a reason to hate them! Why do we do this? It got me thinking to why we would ever want to spend time with a person, just to waste time! I have tried to understand it but I don't think I ever will! Another topic we brought up, was that people who are either dating or are in a relationship spend every waking moment and hour with each other. I am an introverted person and so I need my alone time to regenerate and to take the time to regroup with myself and take care of me for just a moment. So it boggles my mind that couples would want to spend so much time together! I don't know if I'm just negative spinster, and I don't have these glasses on that make you go goo-goo for another human being to want to spend all my time with them, but it is unhealthy. We discussed in class that it is unrealistic. When said couple does get married, the amount of time that they end up spending together is dropped drastically because of work, and other commitments. So as you can see this was why I came back from this week's discussion feeling very confused with my emotions. I have chosen to look at this as great learning and preparation for me to make the right decisions for myself when I am dating, in a relationship, engaged and married. To contemplate and make goals and standards for myself as to what is needed to build a connection with another person, and to maintain it in a healthy way!
Dating sucks. ;)
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